The other day I posted an article about relationships. It wasn't especially good and, like much of my writings, failed to be clear on what my thinking was. Fortunately, the two commenters grasped it, possibly unwittingly.
We don't seek out the most successful of our relationships. We just find ourselves in them.
We pursue our interests, our hobbies, the things that give us satisfaction or pleasure, and we find ourselves around like-minded people. From that common ground grows our finest crop. Especially if the common ground is deep and rich. For example, I made some good friends at work but these were rare because my view of what I did was quite different than most of my peers. Only those who had strong similar outside interests became my friends. The rest remained just acquaintances.
Another thought was brought up and that is how we view ourselves. I know that many of the bloggers are gregarious, outgoing, friendly people. But some of us are quite introverted. I know I am. There are reasons why I am and there is little I can do about those except try to understand them.
I will never find common ground in bars, at dances, and social gatherings. I am at my most uncomfortable there. I am that proverbial "wallflower" (a strange way to describe a man), I hang back on social life and let others mingle.
I wonder how many more are like me in the blogosphere?
A Night Unremembered
6 years ago